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Yeah, Why Can’t 40 Just Be 40?

March 18, 2013 by  
Filed under News, Opinion, Sista Talk, Weekly Columns

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( A few years ago I discovered three strands of gray in my hair and I was shocked to say the least.  Me with gray hair no way!

Well eventually I got over the initial shock and moved on.  I have come to understand that as long as my hair is not falling out of my head then gray hair is not so bad.   I also know that the gray strands are not going to dissolve in thin air either.  Even with a good bottle of Clairol, just as the sun rises and sets day after day, those little wisps of silver will reappear after each tug and pull.

And with that being said I also accept the fact that I am in my 40’s and I’m not getting any younger.   Which brings me to ask why can’t 40 just be 40?  LatelyBusinesswoman holding coffee and texting I’ve heard that 40 is the new 30 and 50 is the new 40 and so on.  I would hope at 60 they that have given up.  

Now I want to know what’s really going on.  Ten year old children are counting the months, days and hours until their 13th birth date.  13 year olds dream of turning 16 to get their license.  Then the 16 year olds are dying to hit 18 as soon as possible, so they can move out of their parent’s house only to return.   What gives?  Why aren’t we ever satisfied?

I have yet to discover the fountain of youth in order to turn back the hands of time.   Actually I prefer to remain in the here and now.   I have no problem letting others know that I have hit the big 4-0 and that I am proud of it.

As a matter of fact I love my 40’s.  Personally I think my 40’s are better than my 20’s and 30’s ever were.  In my 20’s I had no clue as to who I was and what I wanted.  During my 30’s I began to come into my own.  Now at 40 I feel that I have arrived.  I know where I am headed.   I’m focused and I know what direction it takes to get there.

We women in our 40’s are poised, classy and intelligent.  We are CEO’s, lawyers, teachers, and anything else you can think of.  Just name it.  We are stay at home moms grooming those upcoming CEO’s, lawyers and teachers I mentioned.  We women are masters at multi-tasking and we have the gift to think five to six steps ahead in order to make things happen.  

Due to our growing interest in health and wellness and advancements in science and medicine, our quality of life is improving.  While enjoying forty and feeling fabulous, nothing is beyond our reach.   At this stage in the game we are going for what we know, simply because we know what we want.  We are living longer, in turn allowing ourselves to enjoy life to the fullest. 

So as I stand and glance at the reflection in my mirror, I smile at the fact that we are as fine as ever and loving the skin that we are in.   Onlookers are admiring us doing our thing and having a ball.   So I understand why to some folks 40 may appear to be the new 30.  Even though in my eyes 40 is the same glamorous, hot and sexy 40 it’s always been.

Editor-at-Large; Eleanie Campbell
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