Monday, March 30, 2020

In Marriage Some Days You Fight for Like.

March 26, 2020 by  
Filed under News, Opinion, Relationship Talk

Furthermore, there is a work one should consider doing within themselves before embarking on this journey. Both parties in a marriage are imperfect, and they come together to create excellence in this life. They are a team that functions better every day on the back end of every storm. Eventually like isn’t so hard of a fight because the reality that love is a binding agent becomes real. That doesn’t happen on the wedding day…that will come much later, and the beauty that manifests is worth the process.

Ignoring the World is Not Trusting God.

March 26, 2020 by  
Filed under Christian Talk, News, Opinion, Weekly Columns

The thing is it is very easy for faith to be used as a mask for fear. It’s okay to acknowledge fears and concerns then bring them to God in prayer. When we are honest we will find the strength to stand wholly in faith. In that honestly you can look at the problems ahead, do your part to help mitigate such, and trust God to do what you can’t. In that position there is power, and peace.

Admitting the Change Upstream.

When I was sitting on my bed crying, it happened because I had to admit that something I had been chasing for almost my entire life was something I would never obtain.  The reason I would never obtain it is because of the person I am now.  That goal was something I set a LONG time ago before I really became an adult.  While I would love for it to happen, it can not. I have to come to terms with that.  The change, however, is something that I can accomplish as an adult and feel confident in knowing that this change is for me.  It will make me better. A better me means a better world.  I may not like the change upstream, but I am grateful that it is happening.

Sistah What Did You Give Up.

March 23, 2020 by  
Filed under News, Opinion, Weekly Columns

There will be a sacrifice when we allow ourselves to be in white spaces alone…we have to wonder if we are the quotas, or if we will one day be used as the reference for “but I’m not a racist”. In order to sleep at night, we must push that thought to the furthest part of our mind until an incident slaps us in the face with the truth we chose to bury. I’m happy I saw that black queen; she was the highlight of my experience her in Alexandria, LA. I just hope next time she doesn’t have to stand alone; I hope her kind is accepted more so next time. I pray she didn’t give up too much to wear that crown.

Projecting Insecurity is Toxic.

No one is saying the experiences you have should be ignored. You just don’t want to be in a space whereby they control your life and interactions with others. It is important to be able to see yourself as the strong splendid women you are so that this goes before you. Seeing yourself through insecurity means this is the only way you will see others. You will hurt sisters that love and are standing with you, and you can hurt a man that is just trying to love you. Work on healing and killing the insecurity so that you can be free from its clutches, and love freely.

It’s Never Too Late to Start Over.

No one has the right to take that away from you, and they can’t if you don’t allow such. Starting over, and manifesting this new direction is you taking ownership of your life, and your quality of living. Those that exist in fear never have the opportunity to live. This doesn’t have to be you. If you are tired of what you are doing and seeing everyday in your life begin the process of changing it. It won’t happen overnight, but you will be on your way to a life in which you are happy and fulfilled.

Alison Vaughn finds a ‘smart and sexy’ way to empower African American women.

March 20, 2020 by  
Filed under Business, Money, News, Opinion, Weekly Columns

Vaughn, the author of “Ms. Goal Digger, Success is Sexy,” a guide for today’s businesswoman, said there was an abundance of “smart and sexy” fun during her event, including accurate fittings and free foundational garments from Smart & Sexy, one of the largest privately held lingerie companies in the country.  But all fun aside, Vaughn said the mission of her organization is too important to be stopped or slowed down by anything.

Come Back to the Core.

If you are wondering why you do not have these, it is not your fault.  Recent generations have not had very clear core values established for various reasons.  It has been kind of difficult to lay out values when you are constantly being judged or criticized for what you believe.  That does not mean you can not start today with coming back to your middle. Come back to your core values.

She Doesn’t Wish You Well.

It is understandable that you’d find it hard to leave a sister that has been with you so long. However, you must be honest about your relationship. At the very least you deserve the care you give. It becomes a dangerous space when we put ourselves in competition against someone that loves us. You don’t want anyone in your village that doesn’t wish you well, nor want to see you thriving.

White Women and Elizabeth Warren.

March 19, 2020 by  
Filed under News, Opinion, Politics, Weekly Columns

Maybe it’s time to serious move away from that term and chose one of our own be it Womanism or something else. White women are not loyal to each other, and they most certainly aren’t loyal to women of color. Given the state of this country one would hope that white women have learned their lesson. But then again we know better, and Elizabeth Warren just has to wait to find out what will happen next, but it’s obvious her plan to be president for now is over.

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