Monday, March 11, 2024


Tearing That Woman Down Won’t Help.

If we want to see progress amongst our people, our children…our community we as the women of said community have to learn how to deal with one another in love. Where there is no love there must be respect for self and principle. How we engage with one another is a reflection of the respect we have for self just as much as the woman in front of us. We already know we face adversity and harsh treatment outside of the community. Many of us have been allowed to harbor ill feelings and ones of mistrust against our own as a result of trauma, unresolved conflict, and being caught in the web of another sista’s trauma. At some point we must come together and rise in unity and respect if we are to ever thrive as a whole.

She’s Always In A Storm.

If your sista is in a perpetual story, you are burnt out, and need to figure out what to do. Please start with securing who you are, and where you stand as a sista. Look at your boundaries for a relationship with her, and others. If you don’t have any it’s time to create some so that you don’t eventually snap due to pressure and mistreatment. Allow yourself to demand reciprocity and balance. Allow yourself the space to be honest. If honesty, with care, costs you a sista you must consider that relationship may not have been for you. Being loyal doesn’t me allowing someone to mistreat you. Sometimes being supportive means stepping back; you can offer advice, but you can’t live for her. Sometimes she has to learn to calm the storm, and that doesn’t make you an awful sista…it makes you one that truly cares for her wellbeing.

Violence and Safety – Protecting the Wellbeing of Black Women.

In conclusion, addressing the issues of violence and safety faced by black women requires a multi-pronged approach. By recognizing and addressing the intersectionality of racial and gender biases, we can begin to dismantle the systems that perpetuate violence. It is essential to provide comprehensive support services, implement police and criminal justice reforms, and empower grassroots organizations. Moreover, prevention strategies and allyship efforts play a crucial role in fostering a society that values the safety and well-being of all individuals, regardless of their race or gender. Only by actively working together can we create a world where black women are safe, respected, and free from violence.

Empowering Black Women through Self-Defense: Embracing Strength, Resilience, and Personal Safety.

Self-defense training holds tremendous potential for empowering black women. By building confidence, enhancing situational awareness, fostering physical fitness, cultivating self-discipline, and creating a supportive community, self-defense equips black women with the tools they need to navigate the world with increased personal safety and empowerment. Through self-defense, black women can celebrate their strength, resilience, and agency, embodying the legacy of their ancestors who have overcome countless challenges. Let us continue to champion and support black women in their journey towards personal safety, empowerment, and self-determination.

Black Women and Shadow Work: Healing, Liberation, and Self-Discovery.

Shadow work holds immense potential for healing, liberation, and self-discovery for black women. By embracing this transformative process, black women can navigate their experiences, heal ancestral wounds, challenge internalized beliefs, and reclaim their authentic power. Shadow work empowers black women to cultivate self-compassion, forge healthy relationships, and actively participate in movements for social change.

Sometimes A Voice Can Save.

When you step up to offer the voice your sistah needs, you may be about to receive the same…and you may not have realized you needed a lifeline. The conversation my start with you hearing an issue, or being a shoulder.

The Strong Need Safe Spaces.

Let’s love on our strong sistahs. We must create the space to let them know they are appreciated, and they are not alone. They must receive the care that we ourselves demand.

Experience Can Be A Cage.

Which is it? Please understand this kind of cage can restrain us in every area of our life that it allies. Some of us are in spiritual cages, cultural cages, and even academic cages. This happens any time negative experiences become the reason that we disavow a whole when the whole is not what caused us harm.

Control Can Be Dangerous.

Loving them means showing respect for them, even when you disagree with their course of action. Remember, you also have a path that must be charted and that requires your energy. Don’t risk the relationships you value over control. Don’t sell yourself short by focusing so much on others that you neglect the one you have a right to control, self.

Fashion Advice for a First Date.

October 11, 2022 by  
Filed under Opinion, Relationship Talk, Weekly Columns

When it comes to first-date fashion, men have it relatively easy. A nice pair of jeans or a collared shirt is always a good choice. And if you’re feeling a bit more adventurous, you can always add a blazer to the mix.

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