Saturday, July 11, 2020


Black Women Come Together.

If we don’t want to feed the unhuman narrative of the “Overly Strong Black Woman” let’s start with simply tending to our own house. No one is saying don’t care; however, we are in a serious war with our nation and this battle gets more furious by the day. We are dying in the streets and hanging from trees. We must be about the needs of our community and people. Black lives mattering and staying alive must be our chief priority.

Black Fathers Cry in the Dark.

My father deeply feared getting a phone call that something had happened to one of his children. You see he would have gladly killed for us without any thought of consequence. One day he got that dreaded call. Thank God the call was not fatal, but his son has been assaulted by racists…he had been beaten. My father cried, he was afraid, his health did not allow him to jump on a plane. He didn’t want to eat, and he could not sleep. He was in unspeakable anguish from the depths of his soul…and as hurt and enraged as my mother was she was praying the sheer rage seething in my father’s chest would not cause him to have a heart attack or stroke. Some of us have listened to the wailing of black men in ways that have torn our soul into pieces. Some of us have sat with them as they broke down over the loss of their children…children they lost in numerous ways. Once they left that small space, they had to bottle it up, because outside of a few souls all consideration for grief reserved for the mother.

A Letter to My Sons.

This may be the first of many letters, as you are but little boys right now. Just know that no matter what this world tells you there is love here for you. You belong to a family, and a community that values everything you are. You are the legacy of strong, intelligent, loving, protective, wise black men. We will do all we can to raise you to live and survive. Along this road called like remember you, little black boys, are never alone. As my father once taught me, if you find yourself in a situation do what you can to make it home. There is nothing that you can’t bring home. We will put our heads together a figure out the best course of action. Your goal is always…to make it home son.

Self-Love Must become the Stronger Love.

During this time, we’ve spent quarantined many of us have had to come to terms with the truth that we are not loving self well. Many of us are seeing all the cracks in some relationships while the ground has completely fallen out of others. It is okay to mourn the loss of these relationships, but you must love yourself more than the pain you initially feel. For your peace, health and ability to move forward in a progressive space it is important for self-love to be your strongest love. All of those dear to you will benefit from you taking care of yourself.

Is The Lockdown Bringing Out The Worst In Your Partner?

Tweet (ThySistas.com) The COVID-19 pandemic closely followed by the widespread BLM protests all over the world have taken a global society that has been simmering for some time and stoked them up to boiling point. Many of us are feeling scared, confused, agitated, anxious or simply exhausted. And while the lockdown may have at first […]

Your Schedule is Important.

Furthermore, you are sending a message to others that you have plenty of expendable time when that is furthest from the truth. Your schedule, which equates to the moving parts of your life, is important. Value that schedule, and demand that others value it in kind. Be unapologetic about taking care of your first order of business, you and your household. This will allow you to actually taste and enjoy relaxation. It will also expose to you the relationships in your life that need to be re-defined or ended as they are toxic. Make you and the work you do a priority without excuse.

Love Is An Act Of Voluntary Surrender.

Tweet (ThySistas.com) Over the years, the world’s greatest thinkers have tried to define love. For some, it is a romantic sensation that makes you feel warm and mushy inside. For others, it is an action. Love is something you do, not something you feel. This school of thought sees relegating love to a feeling is […]

I Don’t Want to Know Her Business.

Spinning a scenario to get insight on how to help a sistah get through a situation you don’t quite understand is very different from mocking her. It is important to realize the young ladies of our community see this, and it enters their life at a very young age. There are young girls in grade school that are on their way to mastering tearing down their so-called friend by telling said friend’s business. We must do better for ourselves and the next generation. Authenticity and loyalty are needed…this includes not speaking business that doesn’t belong to you.

Divorce Myths You’d Be Wise to Ignore.

Tweet (ThySistas.com) Going through a divorce is tough enough without hearing those around you saying things that simply aren’t true. If you get caught up in the myths, life can become overwhelming. So, make sure you cut through to the truths to make the journey ahead a smoother one. Myth #1: You’re a Failure That’s […]

Social Distancing Means Self Discovery.

Your thoughts. Your viewpoints. Your loves. Your hates.  Hell, even your cravings at 2 AM in the morning contribute to the reason why so many of us will do almost anything to stay alive. Take this time to learn more about who you are.  You will not get it right the first couple of times because it is a game of trying and failing just to try again.  As you try, however, you will discover how awesome you really are. Then, when you are released back into this “new normal”, you will make a great difference in those you encounter.

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