Saturday, April 4, 2020

Exit Stage Left.

I usually internalize it for a long time because I do not believe in saying anything behind the back of someone else. If it comes out before then,  it is in a fit of rage or depression. No one is safe in either situation.  The agony of losing a relationship is really difficult. Then, you have to think about what comes after the loss.  There is the possibility for so many other people and other lessons that can come your way once you finally choose to exit stage left from a damaging relationship.

Lonely or Alone?

One of these attributes is not better than the other, but knowing which one you prefer will definitely help you with developing friendships and knowing yourself.  Also, these attributes are not negative either.  It does not matter if you enjoy being by yourself or being with people.  As long as you are loving the person you are becoming, that is all that matters.

SaTrice Coleman-Betts, St. Pats Senior Center still on duty during COVID-19 pandemic.

“We certainly miss all of our members because they are the driving force of what makes St. Pats, St. Pats,” she said.  “We serve seniors that come from diverse backgrounds and have different needs.  With Mr. Paskal, his desire is to stay physically independent and be active, and he benefits from the socialization too.  And for Mr. Pritchett, it’s all about socialization.  He’s still into going out and dancing, and partying, and having companionship.  St. Pats gives him a safe place to have all of that because our members are free to mold the center into what meets their needs.”

Admitting the Change Upstream.

When I was sitting on my bed crying, it happened because I had to admit that something I had been chasing for almost my entire life was something I would never obtain.  The reason I would never obtain it is because of the person I am now.  That goal was something I set a LONG time ago before I really became an adult.  While I would love for it to happen, it can not. I have to come to terms with that.  The change, however, is something that I can accomplish as an adult and feel confident in knowing that this change is for me.  It will make me better. A better me means a better world.  I may not like the change upstream, but I am grateful that it is happening.

Self-Care, Health and Wellness: Why You Should Stop Neglecting Yourself.

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Tweet ( No doubt you have a wife, mother, sister or friend who is always putting herself and her needs on the back burner, putting off things that need doing, such as that routine doctor’s visit, a much-needed shopping trip or even a simple visit to the nail salon, because, “Oh, I’ll go when I […]

Projecting Insecurity is Toxic.

No one is saying the experiences you have should be ignored. You just don’t want to be in a space whereby they control your life and interactions with others. It is important to be able to see yourself as the strong splendid women you are so that this goes before you. Seeing yourself through insecurity means this is the only way you will see others. You will hurt sisters that love and are standing with you, and you can hurt a man that is just trying to love you. Work on healing and killing the insecurity so that you can be free from its clutches, and love freely.

This Pandemic May be a Test of Our Humanity.

The test will be the ability to share, that thing we try to teach the children, and care for others. The care can come in many ways…helping someone elderly so they can get indoors, feeding children, offering encouragement, or even slowing down on the hoarding of supplies. This coronavirus will be a test of our humanity. It will show to be humane towards each other…or worse than the virus itself.

It’s Never Too Late to Start Over.

No one has the right to take that away from you, and they can’t if you don’t allow such. Starting over, and manifesting this new direction is you taking ownership of your life, and your quality of living. Those that exist in fear never have the opportunity to live. This doesn’t have to be you. If you are tired of what you are doing and seeing everyday in your life begin the process of changing it. It won’t happen overnight, but you will be on your way to a life in which you are happy and fulfilled.

Come Back to the Core.

If you are wondering why you do not have these, it is not your fault.  Recent generations have not had very clear core values established for various reasons.  It has been kind of difficult to lay out values when you are constantly being judged or criticized for what you believe.  That does not mean you can not start today with coming back to your middle. Come back to your core values.

She Doesn’t Wish You Well.

It is understandable that you’d find it hard to leave a sister that has been with you so long. However, you must be honest about your relationship. At the very least you deserve the care you give. It becomes a dangerous space when we put ourselves in competition against someone that loves us. You don’t want anyone in your village that doesn’t wish you well, nor want to see you thriving.

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