Wednesday, July 28, 2021


Mommy Issues are Just as Devastating.

Sistahs we can’t just hold men accountable to be good fathers…we ought not co-op Father’s Day as a time to drag terrible fathers versus celebrating good fathers if we don’t want that energy on Mother’s Day, and the energy exists.

Communication is a Two-Way Street.

If you take the time to communicate with this sistah about where she is you’ll know just how busy she is, and how much she values you.

You Might Not be So Selfless.

Its very hard to see the selfishness, and the truth is you feel selfless in these interactions.

Am I My Mother’s Keeper?

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We as mothers should have conversations with our children that give them a clear picture and context for our mistakes when we are able to.

Growth Take Times.

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Those thoughts aren’t worth your growth time or energy.

Black Women Come Together.

If we don’t want to feed the unhuman narrative of the “Overly Strong Black Woman” let’s start with simply tending to our own house. No one is saying don’t care; however, we are in a serious war with our nation and this battle gets more furious by the day. We are dying in the streets and hanging from trees. We must be about the needs of our community and people. Black lives mattering and staying alive must be our chief priority.

Your Schedule is Important.

Furthermore, you are sending a message to others that you have plenty of expendable time when that is furthest from the truth. Your schedule, which equates to the moving parts of your life, is important. Value that schedule, and demand that others value it in kind. Be unapologetic about taking care of your first order of business, you and your household. This will allow you to actually taste and enjoy relaxation. It will also expose to you the relationships in your life that need to be re-defined or ended as they are toxic. Make you and the work you do a priority without excuse.

I Don’t Want to Know Her Business.

Spinning a scenario to get insight on how to help a sistah get through a situation you don’t quite understand is very different from mocking her. It is important to realize the young ladies of our community see this, and it enters their life at a very young age. There are young girls in grade school that are on their way to mastering tearing down their so-called friend by telling said friend’s business. We must do better for ourselves and the next generation. Authenticity and loyalty are needed…this includes not speaking business that doesn’t belong to you.

Let Her Learn the Hard Way.

Granted, I know this will be extremely hard because you don’t want to see a sistah dear to you go through pain. However, you also know she doesn’t know how to manager her pain, and you must be responsible for your energy. If you take an account of your life you might find that you are having trouble getting things done internally and externally for self because you are drained and hurting. Replenish your energy and protect your emotional state; let her learn.

Sometimes You Can’t Save Your Sister Friend.

Sometimes you can’t save your sister friend even when you greatly want her to be in a better space. There will be those that won’t allow it, some spaces you don’t understand or have means, and others that will become draining for you. In every situation you can always pray and let her know you are in her corner cheering for her to win.

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