Why do (some) Black women OPENLY settle for being the Side Chick?
(ThySistas.com) Invention of the word, Side Chick, to reference the woman who is willingly dating or being intimate with a married man is too clean. It has sanitized the realm of being the “other woman”, the whore, bed wench, the adulterer. Makes it seem like an acceptable title for someone to have or aspire to or accept in their life. This seems to be what many of the new age black women are aspiring to be. And tell me what black man don’t want to have a “side chick” or two on their team when there is no blow back from the community, friends or family for doing so.
Low Relationship Standards
Clearly, there are some low self-esteem and relationship standards at play here because otherwise, who would stand for being the extra in a relationship. These women don’t think much about themselves and the men think even less to put them in this situation. And the man clearly has no love or appreciation for his wife at home if he is up to these underhanded activities.
Lack of Successful Marriages to Model
The ugly truth about the black community is we don’t seem to be interested in marriage these days. There was a time when the black community’s marriage rate was higher than that of the white community, but no more. We don’t have successful black marriages to model in the home, neighborhood or community. Therefore, it makes it difficult for children to grow up and know how they should act in a relationship or when building a family. They turn to television, the media and we have already discussed their position.
Lack of Available Men Excuse Acceptable
This is one that you hear from many professional or young women in the community. They say there are not enough men to go around. Once you reach a certain age or stature in your life, then the dating pool dries up and there are nothing but married men left.
Men Shower Side Chicks with Gifts and Trips
In fact, not only are married men willing to date, but they are willing to financially support and spoil their side chicks often more so than their wives at home. This contributes to the excess of women in the world who feel it is ok to play the side chick for a while to get a few bills paid, take a vacation or get some additional favors in exchange for the service they give. (Oh, don’t be silly, there is a service provided by the side chick. We use to call them “women of the night”, but again the practice has been sanitized.)
Available Women Willing To Play Their Position
Another fact is there is a crowd of black women out there willing to sit on the sidelines and wait for their married boo to have time for them. They don’t want the headaches of dealing with a man of their own, but just want to have some fun every now and again with their married man.The crazy thing is it just seems like this number is growing.
Staff Writer; Amber Ogden
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