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Your Horoscope Is Not All of You.

January 22, 2021 by  
Filed under Health & Wellness, News, Opinion, Weekly Columns

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( Anyone have a friend that lives and dies by what their astrological sign reveals about them?  It is ok. You do not have to say their name. We all have friends like that. Their passion for what constellations reveals about your personality has some validity, and there are some traits that are peculiar to the month and day you came into this world.

I do, however, want you to consider some other aspects of life that come together to create what we know as you.


1Your Genetics.  Kendrick Lamar explained that he had “loyalty…war and peace…” in his DNA. While you may not have the exact same in your DNA, there is something there that is a part of who you are and why you are. In an article by the American Psychological Association, research reveals that genetics have a small part in creating certain outstanding traits: “…And although researchers still debate exactly how to define personality, they have identified certain core personality dimensions that are consistent across cultures, including novelty-seeking, neuroticism and agreeableness.” So, it is ok to say that you are different because of your family.  They actually have something to do with it.

2. Your experiences.   Remember that boyfriend that completely broke your heart? Reflecting on that time a white person called you the N word? Thinking about that moment that you were stung by a wasp near your belly button? All of these moments, for better or worse, have influenced who you are.  Those who know me know that I am extremely territorial with certain people. The reason?  My childhood included a lot of people moving in and out of my life courtesy of my mom.  So, it is very hard for me to let go of someone that I can consider to be close to me.  If I consider you to be a friend, be prepared for hell and highwater in order to get me out of your life.  Like me, there are specific instances in your life that have created certain unique traits about you.

3. Your people.  We can pretend like people do not influence who we are, but they do. People help us to see who we are because we compare ourselves to others and adjust as we see what we like and what we do not like. Ashley Fern of Elite Daily explains why our personalities are sometimes influenced by people:  “Whether you like it or not, you will be judged for the people you associate with.  People are quick to judge and therefore it is a warning to choose your friends and companions carefully.”  The judgment that comes from people makes a difference as to who we want to be.  We will choose to ignore their opinion, or we may choose to internalize what they say to the point that we shift who we are to fit their idea. Either way, people help make our personality.

So, if all of these perspectives influence our personality, how do we decide who we really are?  Good question. The answer is simple: the journey.  While your astrological sign may have a part in who we are, our genes, experiences, and people also help cultivate the awesome person that you are.  Every decision you make is one step closer to becoming the person you desire to be.  So, enjoy the journey to you. Don’t let your horoscope pigeonhole you into what the stars think you should be.  At the end of the day, you know your best you.

Staff Writer; J. W. Bella

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