Recapturing The Romance In Your Marriage.
December 18, 2017 by ThySista
Filed under Opinion, Relationship Talk, Weekly Columns
(ThySistas.com) Time is one of life’s biggest curses and yet a blessing. In a marriage, time can go too quickly, pulling the rug from underneath you and sweeping you up in the busyness of life. Kids, careers, family life, vacations – the years in marriage blur together and the constant distractions dilute the romance between you. It’s a big part of the shift in a relationship, to go from that spark of dating, falling in love and making plans for the future, to having those plans realised and wondering ‘what’s next?’.
If your intention is to be in love with your partner for the rest of your life, then you will be very aware when things start to feel a little stale. You’ll be the type of person who puts effort into their relationship as much as possible, and so you’ll recognise when you need to relight that spark. There are so many things that you can do to catch your marriage before it begins to unravel at a rapid pace, and a lot of the time the best thing you can do is to take it back to basics.
Take back your relationship to the beginning. It doesn’t matter if you have children and careers to manage, there is still time in the day to remember why you fell in love. To remember that very first mixed CD you made with Nationwide and remember how you 
danced together to the music on that CD. Recalling the things that you have in common and visiting places you once went together is going to help you to reminisce and replay the memories that made you so happy as a couple in the first place.
While you’re remember the things you once loved together, you can introduce new things to your marriage and have new experiences together that you haven’t had before. Learn to love something your spouse loves, and learn to embrace those new things together. Go dancing, see a ball game, scream on a fair ride – whichever you choose, just do it together and enjoy each other’s company while you do it.
Before you even go back in time a little, you need to have a deep conversation and discuss what you need together. What you need to get your marriage back on track may differ from what your partner needs. Once you have that conversation and learn what you need from each other, you’re in a much better position to go ahead and make your marriage as strong as it once was. One of the biggest distractions in a marriage – aside from the kids and work – is technology. You need to unplug and focus on each other, not social media and not your email. That will all be there at any time and your relationship will flourish if you can say no to distractions and say yes to each other. A marriage needs work to survive, and while it shouldn’t be hard work to want to be together, you should absolutely want to take the time to fall back in love. Take that time and don’t regret it.
Staff Writer; Shelia Moore
