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Have You Fallen in Love with Yourself?

January 16, 2016 by  
Filed under Health & Wellness, News, Opinion, Weekly Columns

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( I’ve found the journey of self-love to be one that is continues throughout the life process. I find myself constantly learning new things about myself daily, finding more reasons to accept, embrace ad love myself completely. 

There are numerous articles, books, videos, lectures, workshops as well as movies themed around loving self. This necessary journey within is becoming so commercial that we limit our process to finding a romantic partner, losing weight, getting a better job or attracting something outside of ourselves. I saw a commercial earlier this week boasting that their product will make you fall in love with yourself. The journey within has become one that we delve into in hopes of gaining something other than a deeper connection to self.

As black women, we have a variety of outside influences telling us who we must be in order to be worthy of receiving love. We rush out to purchase any book a man releases in order to find out what men want or how we should behave to attract one. We attempt to transform ourselves into what we think others want yet we crave to be loved for who we are. We desire real friendship yet we are unable to accept ourselves. We want to be respected in the workplace yet we walk around with a head full of degrading thoughts about ourselves. We claim to strive for greatness yet work so hard to blend in with others.

There are definitely levels to this journey. Perhaps you walked upon the path wanting to nourish yourself with better food, wanting to embrace your natural hair or even wanting to improve your health and that is perfectly fine, but whats the next phase of this self-love journey?

  • Have You Fallen in Love with yourself?
  • Have you positioned yourself to be the one who loves you unlike any other? 
  • Do you accept you exactly as and where you are yet remain consistent in working towards to your self-improvement?
  • Is it you that you run to for support, for hope and for inspiration?
  • Have you come to a place of self-understanding in your life?
  • Does fulfilling your goals, dreams and soul mission rank highest on your list?

As we develop our relationship with self, we naturally strengthen our relationship with God/Source/Spirit, our family, friends and loved ones. It is through working with ourselves that we learn to love, to trust and to fulfill our commitments. It is the journey into ourselves that opens us up to truly experience life completely.

“Until you do right by me, everything you think about is going to crumble”. We often use this infamous quote from the Color Purple against others, however its most effective when we stand in front of the mirror, look ourselves in the eyes and remember that until we love, embrace and accept self, everything we think about: relationships, career, parenting, purpose, healing, change and finances, will crumble before our eyes.

Until we commit to ourselves fully and for a lifetime, we will coninue to attract others into our experience who lie, cheat, steal, hurt and mislead us. Until you set the standards in your relationship with self, you will attract others who fail to see your worth. We teach others how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves!

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Staff Writer; Dina Tuff

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2 Responses to “Have You Fallen in Love with Yourself?”
  1. Marque Anthony says:

    Scorned women are blinded by their pain, moving away from their innate characteristic as a nurturer to become a destroyer. We have heard the stories before of women strategically using their offspring as pawns to inflict pain or extract money from the child’s father. The women who engage in such actions are not truly women, but self-centered, immature ‘girls’ whose egos drive them to engage in actions destructive to their offspring. These ‘girls’ are unaware of the damage their razor-sharp tongues are inflicting on their child, speaking ill of the child’s father or telling the child the father does not want to see them. The child grows up feeling unwanted and neglected without reason, because the father is willing to be there for that child physically, emotionally, spiritually, psychologically, and financially.

    Women who engage in such actions believe that the father is not needed. In some cases, they grew up without a father and feel they came out okay, unware of their own insecurities and psychological and emotional issues that derive from not receiving attention, love, or validation from their father. This may sound sadistic but this is true–some women are jealous of the love and nurturing the father is giving their own child. Regardless of the reason for their actions the outcome is the same, devastation for the child and the father.

    Despite constant media attention on men who disown their children,Father giving son piggyback ride not much is said of the men who yearn to be with their children but are denied by a vindictive ex and a biased court system.

  2. Dina Deon says:

    Marque Anthony first let me say thank you for following my work, it is very rare that you aren’t attracted to and compelled to read more of my work and it is hope that one day you’ll receive the innerstanding that spirit continues to send you to receive.

    I’m not exactly sure what your response has to do with the original article but your response is typical of “African-American boys” who fail to accept personal responsibility for their actions. Women are much more than nurturers or submissive lovers. Interesting young black men are leaving this earth rapidly yet individuals like yourself find time to bicker with women concerning our divine feminine enegy. I am a destroyer of the illusions you attempt to spread to my sisters and the toxic, damaging.

    With ALL that’s going on in our communities, your true intentions are revealed by your constant attempts to destroy positive, beneficial works of others with the hope that a few lost souls will follow your path. We’re not following the ways of an individual who has been educated by the enemy to implant falsehood in the minds of our people. Yet again your efforts are unsuccessful but with each engagement with you, my following grows. Truth prevails!

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