5 Ways to Nurture a Black Man.
(ThySistas.com) Whether it’s in a friendship, dating or marriage, men and women bring a lot of things to the table that help build a beautiful relationship. In many ways, men and women are opposites but purposely by design. How would a relationship function if both people had the same strengths? Weakness? We all bring our own uniqueness to relationships and in general, men and women offer their own natural skills and qualities. Black men bring strength, stability, independence, protection and physical intimacy to a relationship. How do black women nurture their black men? In a many ways and here are seven amazing ways black women do just that:
Femininity is about both appearance and attitude. Being feminine is about embracing your beauty, softness, tenderness, nurturing, sweet side that men just don’t generally have. Be a woman! Be nurturing. One of the feminine traits of a woman that a man isn’t often imbued with is the natural instinct to nurture. You can be vulnerable, and show him that you need him, but you also can take care of him. No matter how strong, independent and masculine he is, all men love to be nurtured, taken care of, and even babied at times. Showing him that you can be a nurturer lets him know that he can drop his guard around you and that it’s ok and safe to need you. When a guy exposes weakness, when he lets you in to see his vulnerable side, that’s where your power lies. So don’t play with that or take it for granted when he opens up,.
2. Compassion and Empathy
Most men don’t ask for emotional help when they need it, so it’s up to women to step in when they feel they are needed. Who do you call when you have a problem? You call your mom, wife or girlfriend because you know she will listen and understand. Be there and be available for your man.
Being vulnerable is about being real and open. Exposing your weaknesses maybe seem to be the opposite of strength, but real strength is shown in your ability to express vulnerability. Showing your fragility, your pain points, your insecurities and even revealing things that you have done that you are not proud of or regret now that takes strength. Show him how much you love him. Tell him how crazy you are about him. Your emotional vulnerability makes him feel more confident about your feelings for him, and therefore allows him to be emotionally vulnerable and open about his for you.
A black man needs someone who has his back. A black woman is great at this because she falls into the role of chief supporter fairly easily. Black women naturally encourage and support. They tell their men they are doing a great job, and that they are good at what they do. When a man has issues with a co-worker, the woman helps him understand how to deal with it. She gives him the extra push he needs to take care of business. When he succeeds, she celebrates with him.
A woman possesses the humility needed to set aside her own needs and give support to her partner. This can be as small as giving him control over the remote or as big as choosing what kind of car to buy. Of course, she’ll have her preferences. She will voice her opinions. But overall, she knows making her partner happy will ultimately help her, and the relationship will thrive.
Black women have a natural tendency to care for others in all ways possible. In a relationship, this is truly an amazing quality: A woman sees what needs to be done. For example, she will organize her significant other’s closet so that he can actually find his clothes. She might iron his work shirt or pick up his favorite treat when he’s had a bad day. Women have a natural tendency to make sure everyone is well-fed. It’s also about knowing when to put down a project and just be there for the other person. Black women really make their partners feel special, and they nurture them in the ways they need.
Staff Writer; Amber Ogden
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