(ThySistas.com) Becoming a parent is the most rewarding moment for some us regardless of how we experience it. However, it’s one of the hardest careers to undergo. From pregnancy to delivery it can be seen as joy with many complications. Seeing your baby for the very first time is an indescribable feeling. Many of us can’t describe a joy that is comparable. We are in awe of our little angel that can make our heart abundantly full. With that being said motherhood is work. Life is forever changed. Even if you have a supportive hands on partner, there are somethings such as nursing that require you directly. Your instincts change, your sleep is forever altered, and the responsibility grows as the child grows.
It is not unlikely for mothers to feel overwhelmed and even alone as they are raising their kids. Once the toddler stage is hit we find out
patience being tested in ways we never imagined. If not careful we
find ourselves at wits end in tears and breaking down as we want to get away just to find piece of mind the problem is motherhood is often romanticized. Too many women are not looking at the reality of motherhood where the behavior and needs of a child is not perfect. Some felt they could do it one their own, some are choosing to do it on their own by alienating the father, and others have no choice as the father has left. Though the situations are very different the outcome of being overwhelmed is the same.
Having children doesn’t bring order to a life lacking such; it will usher is extreme chaos that tend to make us re-think our own motherhood. Because motherhood is not an easy, though fulfilling, task its important to think about what you are doing before you engage in such. Yes, men have a part to play in he responsibility of parenting. In that its important to acknowledge some others feel overwhelmed and they do leave the children with the dad. There are fathers out there raising children alone and they are strapped with the same responsibilities as a mom that is single parent. However, the focus of this is mothers.
Its time we consider our situation before engaging in irresponsible sexual activity leading to motherhood. In this day and time, we don’t have to get pregnant by accident if we aren’t ready. Furthermore, we ought not have babies just to fill a void of needing someone to love us as we will have to pour so much into them before they can reciprocate such. Lastly, it’s time we address who we are having babies with. If you know the brother doesn’t have a plan for his life, and he’s in and out of jail why procreate? There is a high chance he will not be there to help you with the baby due to incarceration.
This will leave you feeling alone and the child may begin to feel more like burden than a blessing. No child asks to be here so its up to us to be responsible adults in our decision making regarding children. Motherhood will always be work but preparing as much as possible based on what motherhood really is, instead of romanticizing it, can help alleviate the pressure. Remember when we become parents its out job to train up our children, pour goodness into them, and invest in them. That’s a career.
Staff Writer; Chelle’ St James
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