(ThySistas.com) We all know them. Happy couples who seem to have it all together. While many times, things aren’t always what they seem, in the case of many couples, things are exactly what they seem. Since we live in a world where so many folks have learned to fake the funk when it comes to a host of things, the idea of an authentic, loving and overall happy, healthy relationship seems far-fetched. But when it comes down to it, there really are people who have found what it takes to have lasting, prosperous relationships. That doesn’t mean they are better than the next person, but it does, perhaps, mean they are working harder because let’s face it, relationships are indeed, hard work.
So let’s look at the some of the characteristics of happy couples and how you can incorporate some of them now (if you aren’t already).
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Establish Realistic Expectations
This is one of the biggest things that couples face -unrealistic expectations. This is particularly true of women. Sometimes, we expect all these things from our significant other (SO) without realizing that we too have to live up to some expectations. Talking about what they are for each person and working toward them is how you know that the two of you are on the same page. No one should be in the dark about what the other wants or is willing to do.
Make Time for Love
This may sound cheesy, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with scheduling in time for love. In fact, with the lives that many of us lead, it is a must. If you don’t take the time to put the other stuff away and spend focused quality time with each other, you will grow apart.
Have Your Own Thing Going
Just as it is paramount for that time of togetherness, it is equally important to spend quality time apart. I know that I have found in the past that being around my SO for long periods of time is not always beneficial and it became necessary to spend some time doing things that I like by myself or with my girlfriends. This is PERFECTLY fine and needed. I just suggest that the activities you spend apart from your mate don’t venture into inappropriate territory. And that will look different for each person.
Reevaluate your Relationship Regularly
With this one, I don’t mean look at that person and try to find reasons to leave. Here, I’m talking about making sure that you are both taken care of on all fronts. Look at what you are doing in your relationship and see if you are being the best that you can be. You have to be very honest with yourself here, which can be tough for some people. But nonetheless, doing this will help you both see where you are and how you are doing.
Be Honest
This is a given but you would be surprised by how many people don’t practice this very useful tip. It can be uncomfortable because sometimes the truth hurts. But as with most things that go into relationships, honesty is definitely the best policy.
These are just a few of the things that you can use to make your relationship more fruitful. Find what works for you and do it.
Staff Writer; Rasheda Abdullah