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What To Do If You Catch Your Man Kissing Someone Else.

April 14, 2016 by  
Filed under Opinion, Relationship Talk, Weekly Columns

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( You might shut your eyes and pretend it’s a bad dream. Or you might turn around and run away. Perhaps you walk right up to him and demand to know who this other woman is? When you see your partner in the arms of another woman, it can freeze you to the spot or cause a mini-explosion inside of you. It’s one of those moments when you want to scream, cry, and throw something all at the same time. But what should you do?

When we see something that shakes us up like that, we can only react on impulse. There is little you can do to control your reaction. It will just happen. After the event comes the damage control. You need answers, and you need some space to calm down so you can think straight about what the questions should be. And one of the worst ones will be whose fault is it?

Of course, it’s not your fault he has become close to someone else. But you’re going to want to blame it on something. You might be wondering if he has an inbuilt cheating gene. Or maybe this girl is a childhood friend, and they’re jusWoman Kissing Boyfriend's Cheekt catching up. Is he practising for a play? Or is he just completely incapable of keeping his thing in his pants? You’ve every right to ask him for his explanation. But are you going to believe it?

You can choose to give him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he is just extra affectionate with friends. But if you’re worried this is only the tip of the iceberg, you may want to ask him outright. Is he sleeping with this woman? What will you do if the answer is yes? Can you trust that your first reaction isn’t going to be one you regret? The only way to gain and maintain your composure is to prepare. Take all the time you need to get your head around what you’ve seen. And be prepared for the answers you might get.

If your man doesn’t know you’ve seen what you’ve seen, you may have other options. You could hire a private investigator to find out if they meet again and how intense their physical relationship is. This allows you to distance yourself from what’s happening. And it gives you the space to consider what you’ve seen. Perhaps it was all innocent. Or maybe it wasn’t.

At the end of the day, you don’t have to put up with a man that wants other girls as well. You deserve the kind of relationship you want. And if he hasn’t told you about this girl he’s so friendly with, what else isn’t he telling you? Relationships should be built on trust, openness and honesty. Sure, you may have misinterpreted what you saw. But why weren’t you invited along? Why wasn’t he where he said he would be?

If you choose to confront him and ask outright what his interest is in the other woman, then be prepared for answers you don’t want to hear. The whole conversation could turn into a row. But isn’t it better to know where you stand?

Staff Writer; Carla Moore

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