(ThySistas.com) Long distance relationships aren’t for everyone but it is possible to be in a committed, long distance relationship. Think about celebrities who does countless interviews and say that they are everyday people like us, they go months sometimes without seeing their spouse or partner because of their busy schedules. Therefore, for the bulk of their relationship, it’s considered to be long distance.
Technology really help make long distance relationships seem closer than they really are. If your partner lives in a different state, you can FaceTime, Skype or use Google Hangout and video call them. Using this method of communication puts you right where they are visually and reduces your feelings of loneliness. You can play games together during a video call, talk dirty to each other or whatever you and your partner decide to do, together.
If you’re going to embark on a long distance relationship, set your expectations and boundaries in the beginning. Have those difficult conversations before you commit to a relationship with someone who lives hundreds of miles away from you. If you don’t trust your partner now, and you’re already in a long distance relationship, you may want to reevaluate that relationship. Regardless, make sure that both of your expectations and boundaries are clearly stated, understood and respected.
Next, enjoy those moments that you live apart. An anonymous person once said, “If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart.” Embrace the moments that you can sleep in your big comfy bed alone. Think about how you don’t have to share your personal space, hygiene products or food with anyone else. You can make a mess and don’t have to be considerate of someone else in that moment and decide to clean it up later. I know that you may love and miss your partner deeply, but enjoy the moments of not arguing over the top to the toothpaste being off, the toilet seat left up, feminine hygiene products or makeup spread across the sink or dirty laundry lying around in weird places.
Visit each other as often as you can. This should go without saying but it needs to be said. We all crave human interaction or connection at some point, especially with a person we’re in a relationship with. You don’t have to make it a monthly trip unless you don’t live that far away for your partner, but you need to physically see your partner often to stay in a committed long distance relationship. Building the momentum to see each other will be rewarding if you stay committed to your partner.
Whether you travel by car, bus, train or airplane, you have to do the work to stay in a committed long distance relationship. Make sure that the goal in this relationship is to eventually be together in the same space. But for now, enjoy each other at a distance and be creative with how you will communicate and that’s how you stay committed in a long distance relationship.
Staff Writer; Felicia T. Simpson
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