(ThySistas.com) “The faker u are the Bigger your circle will be The Realer u are, the smaller your circle get.” Why does this sound so familiar? This taken from an Instagram post today and although the words are written as if someone is texting me, I definitely understand the concept of their message.
The pressure to be accepted in the world of social media is at an all-time high right now. People are making millions of dollars with titles such as “Influencer” from something they said or did on social media and it went viral. Or you see so many booming or popular entrepreneurs online who really living paycheck to paycheck like the rest of us and buying followers to stay relevant!
How about the person who you engage with online that appears to be so high and mighty in their spiritual life but once that laptop or phone screen close, their cussing like a sailor or abusing the funds from their ministries? Fake, may get you a bigger circle or audience but it won’t keep you at the top. 
Let’s talk about the woman who walks around all day long and online she appears to be the best mother, wife, sister, daughter, etc., but in reality she suffers from depression. You must be authentic to your true self, at all times online or offline. “Keeping up with the Joneses” as the older generation says, will have you being a whole different person online. I’ve followed some people who have posted stories about finally meeting someone from online and the person was nothing like the character they portray online.
I’ve witnessed people talk one way offline and another way online. It baffles me because it takes more energy trying to be, look or sound like something other than who you really are. Don’t try to fit in, just to be accepted by people you’ll probably never meet in life anyway. Another old saying, “What’s done in the dark, always comes to light.” Usually this saying is in reference to cheating, but for the purpose of this writing, we can use it here also.
When you become someone else online, eventually your real self, show up in some capacity. You forget to put your “intelligent voice” on and that southern drawl or lingo show up when you’re doing a live video. You claim to be such an upstanding Christian, but somebody post a screen shot of you turning up and twerking at the club that weekend. Or maybe you lied when you submitted that resume and you really can’t do the job, it’ll show eventually in some type of way.
As far as being fake while online dating, I hate to say this, but it’s almost something expected for the people to do when they create their profile. For example, you’ve been inboxing this guy every day, all day and you two finally decide to meet up. In his profile, he has on suit, tie and to shiny shoes and was standing next to a Ferrari when he took that profile picture photo. His conversations made you think that his finances were in order, but in actuality, he still lives with his mother, that was a suit he borrowed from his cousin and that car, that of course is someone else car he saw while walking down a street and had to take a picture in front of it. You’ve been Catfished, sis.
Don’t become the people online who I’ve just talked about. Just be you is not just some cliché statement, it’s a lifestyle. No matter what your flaws are or no matter what level you’re in in life, own it! Being fake online just to impress your followers is a waste of your time and could be dangerous if you finally meet a person who has built trust in you and you turn out to be a fraud, it’s not worth it.
Staff Writer; Felicia T. Simpson
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