(ThySistas.com) It is okay to love and enjoy sex. There is no reason to be ashamed of a natural function. However, we must stop lying to ourselves, misusing God and blaming some men for it. Having standards is a very positive thing when dating, and in life. Knowing what you want in a man sexually and regarding why you want to be intimate is something you have the right to control and should do so. Feel free to do as your conscious dictates regarding your sexually. No one has the right to take that choice away, now condemn you for what you decide. With that being said it is important not to condemn another for what you are willing to do.
Be honest with yourself. Men are not the only people that love sex. As a matter of fact, a nymphomaniac is a woman. We live in a society that tells us that men are hypersexual creatures, and we believe it because we have been trained to believe many of us have sex because men want it. Because of this we also find it hard to believe woman are just as capable of being sexual predators as men. It is
very important that you tell the truth to you regarding your feelings where sex is concerned. Many women engage in sexual encounters because they like it, and they want it. They just want to engage on their terms which is very understandable. If you can’t be honest about your sexual needs it will lead to problems.
A desire for sex can turn into straight lust. Women engage in this just as men engage. It is very important that we leave God out of this. When you meet someone new don’t bible beat them about not waiting until marriage to have sex when you know you don’t wait. This is a hypocrisy that is never okay. you don’t want to be judged by your sexual desires and would be appalled if a man used this against you. Let’s be fair in all we do. If you aren’t attracted to the guy or he’s lost your interest let that be known. Be honest with him but keep God out of the situation. If you are thinking God should be considered in everything…I would agree with you. However, there is a problem using scripture to condemn someone for the very thing you so…it’s called hypocrisy. That is not a practice you want to get use to engaging in when trying to build relationships.
There is nothing wrong with sex. There is nothing wrong with loving God and making biblical principle a part of your standard. However, when you begin to deal in the subject of sex be sure that you are not using that same bible to condemn what you do. Allow yourself the freedom of sexual honesty internally, and with others. That freedom is a breath of fresh air, and it allows you to actually live in your truth in this area of your life.
Staff Writer; Christian Starr
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