(ThySistas.com) We all encounter problems in our lives. How severe the problem is differs from person to person. But we all know what it’s like to be faced with, what seems like, an impossible situation. Some of life’s toughest challenges concern our families, jobs, and health. It can be difficult to look objectively at a problem when you’re so emotionally invested in it. From infidelity to our children leaving home, there are so many problems we all could face. Have a look at this advice for some suggestions about overcoming some of life’s toughest challenges.
Infidelity
A betrayal is never easy to deal with, but it’s even less so when it happens in a marriage. Vows were taken and promises made, and they have been broken. It can seem impossible to rebuild from this point.
Infidelity in a marriage is more common than you think. Peggy Vaughan, in her book The Monogamy Myth, estimates that 60 percent of husbands and 40 percent of wives will have an affair. This statistic does seem very high, but that doesn’t mean infidelity should be normalized or taken lightly. What we can glean from this is that lots of couples to recover from a breach of trust and go on to be happy together.
Overcoming infidelity in a marriage is a long process. It requires complete commitment and dedication
from both parties, There will be tears along the way, and times you wonder if you can ever forgive (or be forgiven), but you can get through it. The first step on the road to recovery is that the guilty person must want to be forgiven and the injured party must make the choice to forgive. Forgiveness doesn’t happen overnight. But committing to moving forward in a productive way will get you there sooner. It’s important to understand that what has happened will never be forgotten. You can’t impose sanctions on the person who has strayed and keep them close so that it never happens again. You must learn to come to terms with the betrayal and work through it, together.
Once you have committed yourself to trying to forgive, you must understand why this has happened. Often this is the most challenging part. It may be difficult, for both people, to understand why the betrayal has happened. But it’s important to address the problem and rectify it. That doesn’t mean playing a blame game and shirking responsibility. It’s about you both being open, honest, and communicative, about where things went wrong.
Don’t rush, as I said, this is a long process and you need to take your time processing everything. Pledge to be more open with each other and talk through your problems. This will help you build the trust back up. The reality is, relationships and hard and require hard work. If you’re willing to put the hard work in, the infidelity could become a learning experience for you both. Eventually, it will fade into the background of your happy relationship. Don’t make it a taboo subject, though. It shouldn’t be treated as a dirty secret you can’t talk about.
Infertility
It can be devastating to learn that you, or your partner, is infertile. Not being able to conceive can make a person feel very inadequate and disappointed. This just isn’t the case. Around 1 in 7 couples have difficulty conceiving, so you’re not alone.
There are no defining causes of infertility so it’s important to understand that it’s nobody’s fault. It’s also important that you and your partner communicate and console each other. Supporting each other through this tough time will make you come out the other side stronger. If you or your partner are infertile, adoption, surgical intervention, and IVF are all options www.maleynicholas.com have some information about the laws and procedures surrounding adoption. Alternatively, ask you doctor for information about treatments and procedures available to you.
The implications of infertility can be far reaching. It can affect your relationship and your sex life. It can even make you feel isolated. If you are having any of these feelings you should seek an expert. Counselors are able to walk you through the fear, guilt, upset, and help you to get through it. Counseling is a great way to keep the channels of communication open and express all your pent up emotions.
Children Leaving Home
There comes a time when your children will be ready to spread their wings and leave the family home. So it makes sense that the feeling of loss that comes afterward is known as empty nest syndrome.
Whilst you may have longed for this day at times, it is also tinged with sadness. If you are a single parent, it can be especially difficult. What was your life, motivation, and focus, now has gone to make their own way. It can be hard to deal with and difficult to talk about. You don’t want to make your child feel guilty about going to college or finding a great job. So focus on the positives. It’s important to accept that your relationship with your child will change from this point on. They are becoming an adult and their decisions need to be respected. It can seem daunting when children leave home, what’s next for you? But see it as a chance to follow a passion you never had time for, and take some well-deserved time for yourself.
On a cautionary note, children leaving home can shine a spotlight on your marriage. The strengths and weaknesses will come into focus. Be open with your partner and communicate your sadness. Confide in them if you are feeling directionless. This will bring you closer rather than push you further apart.
Coping With Death
One of the hardest things most of us will have to do is say goodbye to a loved one.
Losing a friend, mentor, or family member, is extremely tough. Coping with death is widely regarded as one of the most challenging things any of us will have to face. A vacuum seems to open up in our lives and it can be easy to spiral into depression.
It isn’t easy to cope with death and overcome grief. But grieving is a necessary step on the journey to peace. Grieving is different for everybody. You must allow grief to run its natural course and not try to speed up the process. You may want to spend a lot of time alone. This is completely fine. It could be about having some contemplative time or avoiding people’s questions, whichever it is it’s important to remember these feelings are temporary.
The pain you feel will subside, but time really is the best healer. When you come to accept what has happened it may force you to ask yourself some big questions. You could find yourself re-evaluating your purpose in life. It may prompt you to seek a greater level of fulfillment that you did previously. Leading to a more meaningful existence
Finding Happiness
Speaking of a meaningful existence, that is just what so many of us struggle to find. We all want to be as happy as we can be, but often feel we’re not. It’s difficult to know what will make us truly happy sometimes and how we can achieve this state. So just how can we find true happiness, and keep it?
The truth it, the answer is different for everybody. It can be harder for some people that others. Those who have always had economic stability, or the support of their family, may find it easier to achieve their goals of happiness. So many things can impact how happy you are, from your personality to your religion, to your cultural influences.
The first step on the path to finding happiness is to identify what you personally want out of life. For some happiness means a large family and comfortable life. For others, it could be financial stability, and others may simply want to have their dream job. Try hard to look beyond the superficial and think about what will make you happy in the long-run. Then, all that’s left to do, is go out and get it. We all deserve happiness, so find yours.
Staff Writer; Shelia Hall