(ThySistas.com) Accepting that our lives aren’t perfect has become harder than ever. Wait. No. Accepting that we monumentally screwed up has become harder than ever, and there are loads of variables as to why, but a big part of this is social media. There is an author with the initials WHH who said it best when he said, stop comparing your behind-the-scenes footage with other people’s highlight reels. And that is a big part of it.
There is a single person on this planet – past, present or future – that hasn’t screwed up in some way or another, in some solid fashion. Getting fired, not taking an offer, skipping school, effing up a relationship, getting arrested. Everyone has screwed up big at least once.
But it isn’t about how you fall, it is about how you get up. The author we mentioned above wrote a book about bereavement, but it was more about life, and he explained that life isn’t about how hard you can hit, but how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, it is about how you recover.
Luckily, there are few things you can do to fix these things, a universal way too, and here they are:
All The Small Things
It doesn’t matter how you screwed up, it just matters that you rebuild bit by bit, slowly but surely, because without a decent foundation you may struggle. When we realize we have really messed some part of our life, that’s when we realize we have hit rock bottom, and rock bottom makes everything seem bigger than it is and the pieces much harder to put back in place. So concentrate on each part of your life – instead of the big, messy picture – and go from there. Have the basics in place, some stability, and then work out the little bits. Getting your life back on track is about building bridges, yes, but it is also knowing that you are the bridge.
Don’t Rush Your Recovery
When you are recovery from a major slip up on life’s banana, there are no shortcuts. Sorry. This includes relationships. You have to get yourself back on track, get yourself walking the road to recovery, and you have to do this on your own. The reason for this is, you are sending a very different message to those that you want back in your life; family, friends, your loved one. As they state at ExBackExpertise.com, it is better for your ex to see that you want them back for who they are and not for the things they can provide you with. The same goes for friends, family, co-workers, everyone. So don’t rush. Take it steady.
Always, Always Worry
Baz Luhrmann said we should worry but know that worrying is about as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. We don’t agree. As elitedaily.com sys, the worst thing you can do is not worry because not worrying is just another way of saying stick your head in the ground. Things will get better, they will work out in the end, but only if you want them to if you make them. We’re not saying stress yourself out or anything. What we’re saying is if you just have a come what may attitude then what will come is another bad episode of screwing up. So worry, but worry so that you can move onward and upward.
Staff Writer; Carla Jacobs