(ThySistas.com) Broken hearts are not cute, neither are there any perfect success formulas on how to stitch broken hearts back together. No matter what was the cause of the breakup, using these tips below will help you or someone you know, embark on the road of healing from a breakup.
Take your time healing – Nothing is better than wounds that heal with time. After a breakup, one needs to allow space in between involving yourself in new relationships because with each breakup, there are some lessons to be learned. Don’t feel pressured to get back out there in the dating field because you’re feeling lonely or due to the massive photos of happy couples, coming through your timelines on social media. Take your time healing.
Journal – Journaling is very therapeutic. Journaling your thoughts can be a helpful tool to help you capture any negative thoughts or destructive behaviors that you creating while dating. Journaling is a great way to do self-reflections and you can be honest with yourself while journaling that you may not feel vulnerable enough to disclose your thoughts from within, with others. You can also use your journal as a gratitude journal or record positive affirmations to tell yourself whenever you journal or use this as a daily exercise, to help you heal from a breakup.
Seek professional help (if needed) – If you find yourself not able to recover from a breakup, you may want to talk to a therapist to strategically navigate you through your thoughts, professionally. Seeking professional help is nothing to be ashamed of. We are all human and some of our thoughts and feelings are beyond our capacity to fix on our own. If you are withdrawing yourself from everyone for long periods of time, due to a breakup, you may need to seek professional help. Talking about your thoughts and feelings or identifying traumatic past life experiences can be the door you need opened, to begin your healing process.
Destroy the evidence – Get rid of all of the physical memories of your ex. Remove photos from your social media and/or home. Delete those photos and videos in your phone. Donate that favorite dress you wore that your ex loved you in so much. Give the engagement ring back. Toss any and everything that reminds you of your ex. Constantly keeping memories of your ex at your reach, makes the healing process so much harder to do.
Get active – As much as you may not want to hear this, your ex is moving on and so should you! Get out of the house and go do something. Don’t stay home, and fall into depression over a breakup. Don’t play those sad love songs over and over that reminds you of the “what we had” but focus more on the evolution of a new life and life experiences for you. Go do that one thing that you’ve always wanted to do. Not looking your best, go join that local gym membership and tighten up those muscles or lose those 10 pounds you couldn’t do because your previous relationship, consumed all of your time. Just get up and go out and do something.
Losing a partner or spouse is not the easiest thing in the world, but with these tips, the healing process will strengthen over a period of time. You can always add to this list or create a tool that works best for you. Share this article with someone who could use it or implement these tips in your life if you’re recently dealing with a breakup.
Staff Writer; Felicia T. Simpson
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