Sunday, November 17, 2019

You Can’t Change a Narcissist.

If you are already in a relationship with a narcissist, and experiencing the emotional abuse know there is nothing wrong with you. Know that you are not going to be able to change them; change is something they will have to pursue for themselves. However, it might be a good idea to begin to work your way out of said situation. You deserve better than to be mistreated by anyone that doesn’t know your worth, but that starts with you understanding you can’t change them.

The Gaming Console isn’t Always an Enemy.

September 3, 2019 by  
Filed under News, Opinion, Relationship Talk, Weekly Columns

No hobby should be an addiction because it will cause discord. Just know that sometimes playing the game is how your man is decompressing, and trying to work through the issues on his mind. In this area we should probably leave him to the game, or join him.

We Must Teach Love.

August 29, 2019 by  
Filed under News, Opinion, Relationship Talk, Weekly Columns

If we want to be respected as the individuals we are it’s important to understand no one come with a ready installed manual on how to love and care for you. Our inability to admit we must teach love sets us up to have avoidable conflict in our relationship. We much teach and be taught. As sure as we grow and evolve we will always be learning new and better ways to love and be loved.

Cheating Isn’t Always A Breaker.

August 23, 2019 by  
Filed under News, Opinion, Relationship Talk, Weekly Columns

Women should support each other or at the very least remain silent when the women in their life face this challenge in their marriage. They already feel vulnerable and attacked; support would be the best course of action. Every cheating situation won’t end in divorce and its okay; it doesn’t mean someone is weak and lacking in the dignity department.

Set You Child’s Academic Expectation.

There is a confidence that come with being the best in one’s class that builds the drive from excellence in every task one sets out to achieve. We need our children to experience being the best. They will face enough in this world that will try to make them feel less than; they must excel in every area by which they have control. This drive for greatness begins at home with the expectation of the parents.

The Village Doesn’t Always Forgive.

August 13, 2019 by  
Filed under News, Opinion, Relationship Talk, Weekly Columns

If you plan on staying keep certain information away form that village as they will never be able to unhear it once it comes out. You won’t be able to judge them for taking a protective position as they are loyal to you, and the position is valid. Your village doesn’t have to forgive those that harm you.

Sometimes It’s Not Hurt.

Furthermore, no one should feel communicating respectfully, but truthfully, for fear of being told they are hurtful. In this space any relationship is in danger. If you committed hurt by all means humble yourself and try to make it right. However, if you didn’t please don’t sit back and become a scapegoat for someone’s feelings. Just as they would deserve better so do you.

No One is Ever Enough.

If everything a man does is wrong no matter how hard he tries to make you happy, and you maintain a double standard you can very well run off your Mr. Right. If that happens it won’t be a cause of no one wanting to love you as much as you not allowing yourself to be loved. In some instances, the brother is not intimidates by who we are, we are simply unreasonable because nothing is ever enough.

The Failure in Forgiveness.

Failing at forgiveness does not mean failing at life. It just means growth. We have to understand that improving the ability to forgive takes experiences and maturity. It is not easy, but it is not impossible. Just remember to let go and learn. Oh, and do NOT burn up a car.

Tips to Stay Committed in Long Distance Relationships.

Whether you travel by car, bus, train or airplane, you have to do the work to stay in a committed long distance relationship.  Make sure that the goal in this relationship is to eventually be together in the same space.  But for now, enjoy each other at a distance and be creative with how you will communicate and that’s how you stay committed in a long distance relationship.

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