Friday, April 10, 2020

Come and Listen WITH Me.

Jodeci started with the best intentions in their song asking for a gorgeous woman to simply having a conversation to build to something greater.  I wonder what happens, however, after she comes and talks to him. Will he hear or will he listen?  Will he accept what she says even if he does not agree? Will he practice empathy?  Who knows.  If he does, he is one step closer to closing the gap between men and women that has plagued us for too long.

Are You Ready to Get Married.

January 6, 2020 by  
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Preparation for marriage before there is a mate is something many are not taught. We come with a bad of experiences and things we’ve seen. It’s important to know where we stand regarding healing, money, family, children, and challenges before joining ourselves to another person. Hopefully, they will do the same.

Spiritual Strife Can Kill a Relationship.

In both situations this closeness builds trust and is a great part of a strong foundation. The opposite of this picture causes hurt, and scars because the foundation is faulty. This manner of strife is felt in every aspect of your relationship. If you are fortunate enough to see signs of spiritual strife before committing or marrying it would be wise to re-evaluate the nature of that relationship. You may find that things are not as compatible as they seem.

Being Momma is a Sacrifice of Love.

December 31, 2019 by  
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When someone says that’s my mother, they are saying a mouthful. Motherhood is the hardest challenge many of us will embark upon, yet it is rewarding beyond measure. Never allow anyone to downplay who you are, and what you do for your children when you are giving it all you got. At the same time, we are learning on the job so allow others to help you. Talk to mothers you know that are getting things done if you need a few tips. It takes a team of mothers to pour into the life of one child. The love of a mother is deep, and it is wrapped in patience, compassion, selflessness, and sacrifice.

Sometimes You Can’t Save Your Sister Friend.

Sometimes you can’t save your sister friend even when you greatly want her to be in a better space. There will be those that won’t allow it, some spaces you don’t understand or have means, and others that will become draining for you. In every situation you can always pray and let her know you are in her corner cheering for her to win.

Address Inconsiderate Parents Not Parenthood.

December 12, 2019 by  
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The issue is not parenthood so that in itself shouldn’t be under attacked. These are not easy conversations, and if they are not handled properly relationships could be stretched thin. With family in mind, and proper consideration take the time to speak in love and understand each other. Children need their parents, but they also need the love of their village.

I’d Rather be Alone.

November 30, 2019 by  
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as I’m a grown woman last I checked. Of course, when I brought this to his attention, he tried to make me feel like I was mistaken as he would never say such a thing. On that note the relationship ended. As the old song says: “I’d rather be alone then be unhappy.” Relationships can be wonderful, but not at the expense of who you are as an individual, and free thinker.  Allowing the right person to come along is well worth the wait.

Anxiety and Impatience.

Anxiety can cause serious impatience that is unfair…and impatience you wouldn’t tolerate. Knowing this is important because it can help you make sure you aren’t mistreating the person you care about. There is nothing worse than feeling like the person you care about fights with you regularly and you don’t know how to convey to them that you are all in. If the person you are with is violating boundaries and treating you with disregard don’t let them use your anxiety against you as if your position is invalid because of your diagnosis. At the same time don’t allow your anxiety to dictate a level of control that is unfair and can become abusive. It is important to strive for fairness in all spaces.

Our Sons Deserve the Same Protection.

Allowing them to know you will fight for them just the same can be a start to raising boys and girls that respect each other equally and will stand for respectful behavior towards each other. This tells our sons we don’t expect you to take abuse just because it’s another boy so suck it up, or because it’s a girl and she doesn’t have to observe your boundaries. Fairness in how we handle our children may be a very important part of bettering relationships between men and women.

Make Sure He’s Over His Ex.

November 19, 2019 by  
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The hurt you will incur makes it harder to move on to the love you deserve. It adds to the baggage you are already working on. I told myself I was hurt because this brother looked like he could be the one. The truth is I was angry because I knew I needed to back up, my intuition told me to slow down something about the time table wasn’t right…and I ignored it. Granted I don’t absolve his behavior, but I realize I could have avoided such. You don’t deserve to be a pit stop for someone to fill up on your goodness only to drive away headed to another destination.

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