Sunday, April 5, 2020


Exit Stage Left.

I usually internalize it for a long time because I do not believe in saying anything behind the back of someone else. If it comes out before then,  it is in a fit of rage or depression. No one is safe in either situation.  The agony of losing a relationship is really difficult. Then, you have to think about what comes after the loss.  There is the possibility for so many other people and other lessons that can come your way once you finally choose to exit stage left from a damaging relationship.

Lonely or Alone?

One of these attributes is not better than the other, but knowing which one you prefer will definitely help you with developing friendships and knowing yourself.  Also, these attributes are not negative either.  It does not matter if you enjoy being by yourself or being with people.  As long as you are loving the person you are becoming, that is all that matters.

SaTrice Coleman-Betts, St. Pats Senior Center still on duty during COVID-19 pandemic.

“We certainly miss all of our members because they are the driving force of what makes St. Pats, St. Pats,” she said.  “We serve seniors that come from diverse backgrounds and have different needs.  With Mr. Paskal, his desire is to stay physically independent and be active, and he benefits from the socialization too.  And for Mr. Pritchett, it’s all about socialization.  He’s still into going out and dancing, and partying, and having companionship.  St. Pats gives him a safe place to have all of that because our members are free to mold the center into what meets their needs.”

In Marriage Some Days You Fight for Like.

March 26, 2020 by  
Filed under News, Opinion, Relationship Talk

Furthermore, there is a work one should consider doing within themselves before embarking on this journey. Both parties in a marriage are imperfect, and they come together to create excellence in this life. They are a team that functions better every day on the back end of every storm. Eventually like isn’t so hard of a fight because the reality that love is a binding agent becomes real. That doesn’t happen on the wedding day…that will come much later, and the beauty that manifests is worth the process.

Ignoring the World is Not Trusting God.

March 26, 2020 by  
Filed under Christian Talk, News, Opinion, Weekly Columns

The thing is it is very easy for faith to be used as a mask for fear. It’s okay to acknowledge fears and concerns then bring them to God in prayer. When we are honest we will find the strength to stand wholly in faith. In that honestly you can look at the problems ahead, do your part to help mitigate such, and trust God to do what you can’t. In that position there is power, and peace.

Admitting the Change Upstream.

When I was sitting on my bed crying, it happened because I had to admit that something I had been chasing for almost my entire life was something I would never obtain.  The reason I would never obtain it is because of the person I am now.  That goal was something I set a LONG time ago before I really became an adult.  While I would love for it to happen, it can not. I have to come to terms with that.  The change, however, is something that I can accomplish as an adult and feel confident in knowing that this change is for me.  It will make me better. A better me means a better world.  I may not like the change upstream, but I am grateful that it is happening.

Sistah What Did You Give Up.

March 23, 2020 by  
Filed under News, Opinion, Weekly Columns

There will be a sacrifice when we allow ourselves to be in white spaces alone…we have to wonder if we are the quotas, or if we will one day be used as the reference for “but I’m not a racist”. In order to sleep at night, we must push that thought to the furthest part of our mind until an incident slaps us in the face with the truth we chose to bury. I’m happy I saw that black queen; she was the highlight of my experience her in Alexandria, LA. I just hope next time she doesn’t have to stand alone; I hope her kind is accepted more so next time. I pray she didn’t give up too much to wear that crown.

Projecting Insecurity is Toxic.

No one is saying the experiences you have should be ignored. You just don’t want to be in a space whereby they control your life and interactions with others. It is important to be able to see yourself as the strong splendid women you are so that this goes before you. Seeing yourself through insecurity means this is the only way you will see others. You will hurt sisters that love and are standing with you, and you can hurt a man that is just trying to love you. Work on healing and killing the insecurity so that you can be free from its clutches, and love freely.

It’s Never Too Late to Start Over.

No one has the right to take that away from you, and they can’t if you don’t allow such. Starting over, and manifesting this new direction is you taking ownership of your life, and your quality of living. Those that exist in fear never have the opportunity to live. This doesn’t have to be you. If you are tired of what you are doing and seeing everyday in your life begin the process of changing it. It won’t happen overnight, but you will be on your way to a life in which you are happy and fulfilled.

Alison Vaughn finds a ‘smart and sexy’ way to empower African American women.

March 20, 2020 by  
Filed under Business, Money, News, Opinion, Weekly Columns

Vaughn, the author of “Ms. Goal Digger, Success is Sexy,” a guide for today’s businesswoman, said there was an abundance of “smart and sexy” fun during her event, including accurate fittings and free foundational garments from Smart & Sexy, one of the largest privately held lingerie companies in the country.  But all fun aside, Vaughn said the mission of her organization is too important to be stopped or slowed down by anything.

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