Wednesday, June 3, 2020

Your Schedule is Important.

Furthermore, you are sending a message to others that you have plenty of expendable time when that is furthest from the truth. Your schedule, which equates to the moving parts of your life, is important. Value that schedule, and demand that others value it in kind. Be unapologetic about taking care of your first order of business, you and your household. This will allow you to actually taste and enjoy relaxation. It will also expose to you the relationships in your life that need to be re-defined or ended as they are toxic. Make you and the work you do a priority without excuse.

Love Is An Act Of Voluntary Surrender.

Tweet ( Over the years, the world’s greatest thinkers have tried to define love. For some, it is a romantic sensation that makes you feel warm and mushy inside. For others, it is an action. Love is something you do, not something you feel. This school of thought sees relegating love to a feeling is […]

I Don’t Want to Know Her Business.

Spinning a scenario to get insight on how to help a sistah get through a situation you don’t quite understand is very different from mocking her. It is important to realize the young ladies of our community see this, and it enters their life at a very young age. There are young girls in grade school that are on their way to mastering tearing down their so-called friend by telling said friend’s business. We must do better for ourselves and the next generation. Authenticity and loyalty are needed…this includes not speaking business that doesn’t belong to you.

Divorce Myths You’d Be Wise to Ignore.

Tweet ( Going through a divorce is tough enough without hearing those around you saying things that simply aren’t true. If you get caught up in the myths, life can become overwhelming. So, make sure you cut through to the truths to make the journey ahead a smoother one. Myth #1: You’re a Failure That’s […]

Social Distancing Means Self Discovery.

Your thoughts. Your viewpoints. Your loves. Your hates.  Hell, even your cravings at 2 AM in the morning contribute to the reason why so many of us will do almost anything to stay alive. Take this time to learn more about who you are.  You will not get it right the first couple of times because it is a game of trying and failing just to try again.  As you try, however, you will discover how awesome you really are. Then, when you are released back into this “new normal”, you will make a great difference in those you encounter.

Let Her Learn the Hard Way.

Granted, I know this will be extremely hard because you don’t want to see a sistah dear to you go through pain. However, you also know she doesn’t know how to manager her pain, and you must be responsible for your energy. If you take an account of your life you might find that you are having trouble getting things done internally and externally for self because you are drained and hurting. Replenish your energy and protect your emotional state; let her learn.

Do You Need New Friends?

It took me until my 30s to realize why I had issues with keeping effective friendships in my life.  I did not know myself.  I was scared of sharing myself with people.  I also did not know what I wanted, but I expected everyone to read my mind. For the record,  people can not read minds.  Since they can not do that,  I had to learn myself in order for me to develop a love for others.  Now, I’m grateful to have a village of people who I consistently practice reciprocity with.  I take joy in having these people in my life, and I hope you are able to find the same joy.

Exit Stage Left.

I usually internalize it for a long time because I do not believe in saying anything behind the back of someone else. If it comes out before then,  it is in a fit of rage or depression. No one is safe in either situation.  The agony of losing a relationship is really difficult. Then, you have to think about what comes after the loss.  There is the possibility for so many other people and other lessons that can come your way once you finally choose to exit stage left from a damaging relationship.

In Marriage Some Days You Fight for Like.

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Furthermore, there is a work one should consider doing within themselves before embarking on this journey. Both parties in a marriage are imperfect, and they come together to create excellence in this life. They are a team that functions better every day on the back end of every storm. Eventually like isn’t so hard of a fight because the reality that love is a binding agent becomes real. That doesn’t happen on the wedding day…that will come much later, and the beauty that manifests is worth the process.

Projecting Insecurity is Toxic.

No one is saying the experiences you have should be ignored. You just don’t want to be in a space whereby they control your life and interactions with others. It is important to be able to see yourself as the strong splendid women you are so that this goes before you. Seeing yourself through insecurity means this is the only way you will see others. You will hurt sisters that love and are standing with you, and you can hurt a man that is just trying to love you. Work on healing and killing the insecurity so that you can be free from its clutches, and love freely.

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