(ThySistas.com) We have all been there – the first date. Depending on who you are it is both exciting and nerve-racking. Meeting someone for the first time is hard enough but to add in the stress of it being a romantic encounter just puts all the more pressure on you.
Despite how difficult first dates can be when it comes down to it, the only person you can control and make sure has their stuff together is you. There are some things you can do to nail your first date so that no matter what happens, you know that you did your best to make a good impression. You can nail your first date, even if it ends up being nothing to write home about.
Over the years, I have realized that wearing anything that makes me the slightest bit self-conscious has an impact on my confidence. You know how these things go; if you don’t feel confident it definitely shows in everything from how you act to how you speak. If you are eyeing a dress that will cause you to have to suck your gut in all night or if you wear shoes that you can barely walk in, it will impact your overall experience. Wear something comfortable that will boost your confidence and leave you carefree.
So, I get that you want to impress the other person, especially if they are really good looking and seem to have things together. But don’t go overboard or try to be something you are not. This is not a good way to start a relationship. This is where that confidence thing I spoke about earlier comes into play. Be who you are and you don’t have to worry about saying something that isn’t representative of who you are. Turn on the charm, for sure, but don’t misrepresent yourself.
Do Some Research
Listen carefully on this one. I am not talking about stalking the person and talking about everything you found out about them. There is more than enough time for them to find out just how truly crazy you can get. All jokes aside, knowing what you are getting into will help you prepare because let’s face it, you will need some conversation starters.
Be on Time
Don’t be one of those women who feel like a man should wait on her. This may be something that happens later in the relationship if it gets that far, but it should not be something that you go right into as a standard. This sets the tone of the date and although women are pretty much notorious for taking their time to get ready, you shouldn’t. It’s an overall bad impression and just because you are a woman doesn’t mean the man should or has to cater to your idiosyncrasies. Well, at least not on the first date.
It’s fun to meet new people, especially if there is the possibility of meeting the person you just might spend the rest of your life with.
Staff Writer; Rasheda Abdullah