(ThySistas.com) It is a beautiful thing when mothers dote on their daughters, and spend time helping them develop their femininity. Learning how to enjoy a nice pedicure and manicure as a young age helps to set the standard for self-care for young girls. The concerning trend is that mothers are trying to make besties of their daughter, and in the process exposing them to adult presentation too soon. When you go into stores now to buy a pair of shorts for a girl you may be hard pressed to find them at a decent length for a little girl. The clothes for girls are allowing them to feel very comfortable with having meager amounts of clothes on.
Little girls are always in a rush to be teenagers, or adult women. However, there is a process to life and expediting this for a young child is not wise. Healthy girls that become overly obsessed with their weave, false eyelashes, designer bags, halter tops and cut offs, extravagant designer prices, long false nails and detailed makeup that are barely tweens are being allowed to stand on par with their mothers, and it sends a message that what’s on them is more valuable that what’s in them.
When this occurs moms often face the defiance of their daughters at a younger age. She feels she is woman enough to put her mother in line, and that her mom is her friend. This picture sets young girls up to feel it’s okay to behave as an adult woman and this can extend to their interactions with boys if not careful. Individuality, modesty, respect for where one is in life, and the ability to respect authority is on the table when young girls are not expected to be young girls.
Growing up many of us were not allowed to entertain adult conversations, some of us couldn’t wear makeup until 15-16yr old, disrespecting adults was never allowed, and we actually did things that kids do. We were expected to be children, until it was time to be teenagers, and teenagers until it was time to be adults. We earned the right to sit at the adult table for the holidays, and it was really a big deal. This is missing for our kids. Granted we can lay some of it at the feet of social media and technology, but we must make the innocence of our children our priority. Life is a building block…forcing our young girls to look, and behave as adults without laying a proper foundation for their dignity, and self-respect is dangerous.
Young girls should be able to wear whatever they want and be unharmed. Grown women should be able to wear whatever they want and be unharmed. Both statements are true, and in an ideal world it would be reality, but unfortunately our society doesn’t function in that way. We can teach our daughters to be beautiful, comfortable and trendy while still dressing in a manner whereby they are appropriately covered for their age.
No, clothes won’t stop you from being hurt if a monster is lurking, but it would help preserve the child’s dignity. There is a whole generation of young girls that need to slow down, and simply be kids. They are not our equals, and we should not put them in the position to fail in that area. We must protect our daughters, and part of that is making sure they learn the lessons we need to teach them at every level of development. Too grown too young doesn’t serve the best interest of the daughters of our community.
Staff Writer; Christian Starr